Mutterings of a Fool

Man, Dad, Runner, Chief dog walker

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Gone in a flash

Things that are fast; Lewis Hamilton in a Mercedes, Concorde, the bullet train (which apparently now levitates), Usain Bolt, Bracken chasing a squirrel, a toddler when your back is turned, the school holidays when you’re a child and your lunch break as an adult. I’d also add to that extensive list your children growing up.┬áRupert is now a month old. A MONTH! Holy crap did that fly by. The past month has been a blur of broken sleep, demanding preschoolers and at times paddling furiously just to stay still. It’s been hard work of course but on the whole we’ve kept smiling and positive, 3rd time around I think you’re much better placed to keep things in perspective and not let them get on top of you.

Rupert in the eveningI have a colleague who is expecting his first this week, it’s been fascinating talking to him and reliving that nervous expectation of your first child being born. All the questions he has and all the things he’s yet to experience. In a way I’m actually jealous of him, having your first is such a special experience isn’t it? The first time you become a family rather than just a couple, it’s a huge change and your life really won’t be the same again will it? I’ve been very conscious not to come into work and just complain about being tired or not having time to do anything, both very true but it’s very easy to get obsessed with the negatives of being a new parent and forget how great it is also. I want him to see that his paternity leave is going to be awesome and possibly both the hardest and best time off work he’ll ever have.

We’ve had a tough last week with Rupert who has inevitable caught not 1 but 2 colds from his ever affectionate siblings; Matilda and Henry were both spring babies so we never experienced them getting colds at such a young age. It’s really not fun seeing him so little and struggling to breathe properly and then coughing when clearly his throat is sore. It’s meant that we’ve spent probably 75% of the past week with one of us carrying him around as he wouldn’t settle to sleep lying down (who can blame him) which is quite honestly knackering. We’ve made good use of our Babasling but it’s still tiring standing up for most of that time and rocking back and forth, I did so much of it on Saturday I felt like I’d been on a boat.

But yesterday we enjoyed one of my favourite ‘firsts’ as a parent – the first bath. An amazing 20 minutes as a family that wiped the tiredness from the past few days clean away. Amazing how those parenting moments can do that isn’t it? Rupert’s first bath was a little bit more chaotic than Matilda’s with 2 siblings desperate to be part of the event and I may have had to roll out the parenting discipline big guns (you’ll go to bed with no story AND no milk) to stop them drowning him as they fought to get the closest, but it was still awesome.

Rupert's first bath

The bathroom has always been a place where he’s chilled out for some reason, most nights I lie him on the bath mat while Matilda and Henry are in the shower and he seems to enjoy just taking in the noises around him. It turns out that he’s just as chilled in the bath itself, we laid him down on the bath and he happily splashed away while Matilda and Henry ‘helped’. It was one of those moments as a family that you dream of, where everyone is happy and playing together in one place. I think Matilda and Henry are enjoying him slowly becoming more interactive and accessible which is lovely to watch. With Rupert looking like he’s going to be another water baby I think we may be heading swimming quite soon!

P.S. I also had a little look back to see what Matilda’s first bath was like, turns out it was a bit less glamorous (it was in the sink) but she enjoyed it just as much.

Daddy’s little olympic swim champion, AKA the first bath

Matilda was 4 weeks old on Friday last week so we decided it was really time that she had a proper wash. To be honest there was starting to be a little bit of an ‘odour’ floating around. However we did want to wait until she was a month old so as not to get rid of those good natural oils on her skin. So Sunday was designated bath day and we assembled everything ready to operate like a well trained formula 1 pit crew. Rather than try to bend over the edge of the bath we decided to make use of the kitchen sink for the time being. Which has the added advantage of being much more ergonomically correct.

DSC_0024The lady of the manor is somewhat of an expert in these things being a children’s nurse so I was most definitely Robin to her Batman. I behaved like a good student and did what I was told without questioning it. Matilda appeared to enjoy it after an initial screaming fit and had a bit of a splash around.

The lady of the manor enjoyed it tremendously and you couldn’t wipe the smile off her face. We’ve now made this a part of the evening routine in the hope to start moving towards some sort of structured bed time process. No expectation that it’ll happen any time soon but it’s good to at least start now.

The only downside of all this is that even if I’m on time leaving work I only just make it home for bath time. But that’s the compromise we made to live where we do and for me to stick with a company where I’m doing ok. I think we’re just going to have to make Sunday mornings daddy time. The lady of the manor can have a lie in while I take my little girl out or just sit and eat breakfast with her when she’s older.

So now she’s had a bath I reckon a swim is next don’t you? Then maybe a spot of surfing in the summer?

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