Mutterings of a Fool

Man, Dad, Runner, Chief dog walker

Lazy boys and clever girls

We’re in an interesting development phase with Matilda and Henry at the moment, one that has you laughing and smiling one minute and then tearing your hair out the next.

2 weeks ago Henry took his first steps, amazing almost exactly a year since Matilda did the same which means he’s about a month ahead of her in doing it. He had of course been threatening it for a while cruising around as most kids do but finally he decided to be brave and let go. I think that moment when they first realise they can walk has to be my no.2 moment as a parent after the birth itself. I just love the look on their faces and excitement at moving in a different way.

However since then he only really takes any steps if we ‘make’ him walk between us or something. The rest of the time he drops to his knees and crawls, I’m sure because he knows he is a speedy crawler so why bother trying to walk? I really want him to get it though as there is already signs him and Matilda will be able to play together easier if he can.

We chose to have children close together so that hopefully they’d then be able to play well together being reasonably similar ages. When Matilda and Henry play nicely it’s so lovely, they chase around the house with him on his trucker and her pushing her pushchair, or they play in the bath pouring water into pots. You can’t help but smile and feel your heart melting as she helps him do something.

Matilda and Henry feeding Bracken

Even if helping him do something is feed Bracken his second breakfast or how to climb up onto the windowsill…..

But and it’s often a big but, there are also the moments when it appears their only method of communicating is screaming at each other. Mainly when Henry is trying to get something Matilda doesn’t want to share. Like all her stuff. I’m sure he knows exactly what he’s doing and how it winds her up. We’re hoping that once he’s walking and also talking a bit that they might be able to work things out a bit better.

However it’s not just the not sharing that can be an issue, Matilda is definitely an intelligent little girl and has become quite devious at times. Like giving Henry her china plate at meal times knowing full well we don’t want him to have it and he’ll likely throw it on the floor. I’m sure this is just a period of testing boundaries as she gets that bit older and understands more and there is only so much you can do to keep her occupied when you have 2 to look after.

Now of course the lady of the manor bears the brunt of all this which makes my now 7 minute commute oh so useful to dash home early when she’s had a tough day. Means I can entertain the little monsters for an hour while she gets dinner ready.

All tips for dealing with the terrible two’s much appreciated….


  1. Those first steps are a precious moment aren’t they? Briliant that you got it on film!

    It’s worse with twins, trust me! This actually sounds pretty normal to me, I’m afraid to say. Children aren’t natural sharers, they will do all they can to push your buttons & they’re good at working out how to do it. Matilda is old enough to be thinking about independence, working out who she is & deciding that she doesn’t always have to do as she’s told! My view is that if you stick at it the good always far outweighs the bad!

  2. The playing is something we are looking forward to – hopefully O and new baby will still be close enough in age to enjoy each others company 🙂

    However, what you have been experiencing sounds completely normal to me. Olivia tries to test us all the time and I’m sure she will use the new baby as a tool for this. I wouldn’t let it bother you though, she will know and will only do it more 🙂

    Gotta love toddlers 🙂

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