Mutterings of a Fool

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What are your highs and lows from 2011?

Keith of Reluctant house dad fame has tagged me in this meme to share some highlights and lowlights from 2011.  The year was a pretty bloody good one all in all and I have to say with very few lows. So here’s my review per the required structure.

What was your happiest event?

As 2011 was the year I became a dad nothing really comes close for happiest event. That moment in the delivery suite when we discovered we had a daughter was magical, the days and months since have been tough but oh so rewarding. The first time she smiled, the first time she clapped, the way she bangs her feet on her chair when she’s enjoying what she eats. These are the moments you remember and the ones that can erase all those sleepless nights and crying.

What was the saddest thing to happen?

At the beginning of the year we found out that the lady of the manors mum had ovarian cancer, which was a pretty tough time. She began treatment just before Matilda was born so we were worried she wouldn’t be able to come near Matilda due to the chemotherapy drugs. But it worked out ok in the end and following a successful treatment is fingers crossed now in the clear

What was the most unlikely thing to happen that actually went ahead and did?

Hmmm maybe the lady of the manor getting pregnant again? If you’d told me at the start of the year that we’d have another baby on the way I would have laughed in your face.

Who let you down?

There can be only one candidate for this and that’s the England rugby team, I traveled to the other side of the world to watch that joke of a rugby team embarrass the nation. Professional players that didn’t have the balls to stand up and take ownership of their performance. No matter what the failings of the coaches they should have at least had some pride like the French did.

Who supported you?

Family, every single one of them. From gifts and ‘permanent loan’ of nursery furniture to emotional support and baby sitting. They may be 60 miles away but both sets of parents have been more than willing to drive down and help us out. What I value the most though is the non-judgmental support, they may have raised their own children (5 in my mums case) but they didn’t tell us what to do or say we were wrong. They gave advice and support which is exactly what we needed.

Tell us something you learned

You may think a new born baby has finished poo’ing, but it will always save up a little exra for that brief moment when it has no nappy on and then KAPOW, poo is on the carpet, your jeans/hands/jumper/hair and if you’re really lucky the wall behind you.

Tell us something that made you laugh

I was at a dinner party the other night and there was a 7ft penguin walking around, I thought to myself, that’ll break the ice.

Tell us one thing that made you cry

I don’t care what the question says I’m giving you 2 things; firstly watching Marley and Me, no dog owner can watch that and not cry. Secondly when I had a massive back spasm in my lower back in June. Within 10 minutes I couldn’t walk and spent the next 2 days lying on the lounge floor, the only time I moved was to crawl on all fours to the toilet. I have never known pain like it; in fact I think it was probably worse than giving birth. Certainly there wasn’t any gas and air.

Tell us 3 things your child did to make you proud

Firstly she is unequivocally my daughter, blonde hair, blue eyes and tall.

Secondly that she is the smiliest baby you will ever meet, she will flash anyone a smile who talks to her. I love that she seems to be an optimist and positive person like me

Thirdly that she is the noisiest baby in our NCT gang, put them all together and she’s the one chatting away, ‘talking’ to the other babies like she’s directing them. I hope she continues being so forthright and strong as she grows up.

Tell us one thing that made you proud of yourself

That we didn’t let having a baby stop us getting out, we didn’t put our life on hold, we got out and had a bloody amazing adventure in New Zealand. An adventure that wouldn’t have been the same without Matilda.

Tell us one challenge you overcame

Trying to not wake up first at night so I don’t have get up to Matilda. It was tough but I beat it, I may even have a little talent in this area I reckon.

Is there anything you would like to change about your life in 2012?

I’ve written a couple of posts on resolutions/plans for the year, the biggest thing we are going to change is having debt. It shall be all gone by the end of the year so we can live comfortably once the sprout arrives and maybe just maybe the lady of the manor can become a stay at home mum.

I also want to try and eat more seasonally, rather than buying the same food all year round simply because the supermarket is able to stock it.

So there you have it and I’d like to tag the following lovely people if they haven’t been already;

It’s a dads life

The Kitchen Mechanic

Cheetahs in my shoes


  1. Brilliant post, Ben – and what a year last year was. 2012 has a very hard act to follow – but the fact you can’t keep it in your pants will ensure it is just as exciting as 2011 🙂 What I love most is the fact you went to the other side of the world watching rugby with a new baby. A lot of parents would just close the curtains and lock the doors. (And you are so right about the England Rugby team)

  2. Gosh your family sounds amazing – non-judgemental? What I wouldn’t give for that! And the poo thing? Hits the wall, seriously projectile! How doe they do that?

  3. *wipes tears of laughter from eyes* A 7 ft penguin? Break the ice? It’s such a corny joke, but took me by surprise. Hahahahahahaha.
    And your ‘talent’ of keeping your eyes tight shut when the baby cries? Sorry to inform you, but most Dads have got that one down quite easily. My husband certainly does.
    Nice to meet you. Will be following.

  4. Stopping by from Blow Your Own Blog Horn to say “hi” – enjoyed browsing your site 🙂

  5. Another stop over from ‘Blow your own blog horn’ Great post – will certainly be back to read more!!

    Extremely jealous of your New Zealand trip – even if the Rugby you were subject too was a little rubbish to say the least!

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